Sand through the concrete

Why do we fail? Are we failing others, ourselves? our partners?..It depends, right? It depends on how you are viewing the situation. How you perceive it.

It’s crazy how every single conversation, every single adventure, memory, moment, movement forms us.. these past events form our perception of the present.

Do you ever sit and realize that maybe it’s your perception that may be off?

Opening your eyes, like really opening your eyes and allowing yourself to be present, and slow down, changes not only how you perceive situations, but also how you grow and learn from them.

Our thumbs fly 100mph on our iphones, spewing out words that our frontal lobe tells us is how we are feeling. In that moment- that anger, that saddness, takes over reality and our “other” comes out.. and don’t even say you don’t have an “other” because EVERYONE has an “other.”

We continue to fly through the moment because we have already created our perception. We have created our idea of what is going on and placed it in a bucket with concrete. At this point the other person trying to say anything to you is as beneficial as trying to poor sand through the concrete.

That perception doesn’t allow our fingers to slow down enough to make it even a possibility to allow our hearts to connect to that impulsivity in our brains.

until there is a moment of stillness and your gut twists and your heart drops.

You realize that everything that just happened could have been avoided.

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It is then- in this moment, that those questions come alive. It is then in that moment, that you are able to acknowledge that it was your other that took over, and rationalized something that the real you may never consider, or the real you would never say..

This [concrete bucket perception] gets us in trouble and it makes it so hard to trust. This is when you feel stupid that you ever gave someone that much power over your emotions, and your feelings. You feel angry that they were able to rip them away from you with what felt like no warning.

One second you’re absolutely head over heels in love, the second later everything has changed.. and you can’t even comprehend HOW you felt that love and compassion towards this person.

This is where you stop. We need to stop.

Have things really changed? Or are two others trying to poor sand between the cracks of the concrete….

Next step: creating the cracks to allow their sand to seep through your concrete.