freedom

Life is scary sometimes, and it doesn’t make sense. Just last week I felt as though I was having a mid-twenties crisis, and now tonight I can’t get the smile off of my face or my brain to shut off. I think sometimes our perspective gets the best of us and hides the good parts of our life.. the parts that we deep down know are there and just don’t know how to pull them out. Here are a few thoughts on how I found happiness and what you can do too. It’s not easy, and it can’t be forced.. but once you do it you’ll be a whole new you.

1.Get rid of toxicity: This may have been one of the most difficult things to do, but it allows you to finally breathe. And pause.. by toxicity I mean people. There are so many people in our lives that we feel obligated to keep around.. that we are worried we can’t dismiss due to history, time spent, memories, whatever excuse you want to use. But guess what, today is a new day, and you have so much life left to live. I think we forget that our lives are novels. It’s okay for a chapter to close and for a new one to start. Removing people from your life that cause you anxiety, worry, stress, *insert horrible feeling here* will change your life. Whether it be something like deleting them on social media (this is a big one), removing them from your contacts, or all together disregarding them, it is okay to put yourself first for once. That 15-year-old “friendship” isn’t worth the pain and insecurities that come along with it. It is okay to tactfully move on and start to live a toxic free life.

2. Gossip: This one is tough because I don’t’ think it is possible to 100% reign in yourself to never mention a word of anyone else.. BUT, being mindful and decreasing the negative things that you may tend to say about others and/or their lives will surprisingly feel good. Or even, when others are talking bad about someone, acknowledge that you don’t agree with the statement or giving the person the benefit of doubt that what is going on isn’t true. Not only that, but I also like to think about what may be going on in this person’s life that we don’t know about.. everyone is fighting their own battle. everyone.

3. Stop comparing yourself: LOL right. All we do as females are judge, criticize, and hate on ourselves. This usually is due to the fact that we are comparing something about ourselves to others. NEWSFLASH! You are your own person!!! Your body is different, your personality is different, your choices are different. And guess what? That is okay! It is more than okay.. it is amazing! Stop comparing yourself to others and rather, compare your new self to your old self. Maybe you stopped going to kickboxing which you loved and no longer participate. Maybe you recently picked up a habit of sleeping in when you used to always be a morning person. CHANGE IT! Get rid of the things you don’t like your current self doing, and get back to the things that your old self used to enjoy. A little healthy competition yourself can be a good thing once in a while!

4. Stop caring what others think; be you: This one changed my life. And it will change yours too.

DISCLAIMER: this is impossible to do unless you are ready. There is not faking it, or forcing it.. it is something that you just come to realize that it is important to you and you are ready to be the person you have always been meant to be. I’m sure I have preached this in the past if you have read any of my other blogs… but I am so so serious when I say it is life changing.

-Let them believe the rumors.

-Let them talk behind your back

-Let them make false claims

-Let them paint you as someone you are not

-Let them judge your actions, beliefs, behaviors.

You know why?

BECAUSE NOBODY CARES! Funny thing is, their “opinion” of you, your choices, your story, is a sad excuse for someone else’s’ unhappiness. Don’t feel bad about yourself and what is going on behind your back, feel sorry for THEM.. that they have nothing better in their lives to do but speak poorly, think irrationally, and spread information that they don’t have any idea what is true and what is a false claim! Letting people think what they want, say what they are going to say, and do what they are going to do and NOT let it affect you and/or change your emotions is FREEDOM.

Don’t let others dictate your life. Surround yourself with people and environments that fill you with love and appreciation. Ditch the negativity and haters.

Be you. Be happy. Be FREE!

 

 

 

 

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