Should I stay or should I go-

Are you considering material things? Are you thinking about all the the time you put into the relationship, the work that it would take to “start over.” Are you more worried about what your friends, family, Facebook friends are going to think when they hear the news? When you think of never seeing that person again do you worry about the financial investment made and the difficult separating assets. Thinking that the hardest part of saying goodbye is not to them.. but to their family? Do you feel guilty and that maybe this thing has played out and you both could be happier elsewhere?

Or-

Will you miss the time spent, laughs had and love made. Do you think about the good things and will be broken without them? Do you defend your negative thoughts and identify the positive. Do you feel the need to put up the white flag and surrender to those who think differently about what you want and decide to put your feeling first? Are you able to forgive, learn and progress? Or is the hurt too much to overcome..

I have been in both of these situation. In a 5 year period. Both I thought I was in love in the beginning. One proved me wrong. But the question of should I stay or should I go, may be one that lingers for some time. Taking the right path may never be an option. But taking a risk that may lead to happiness is one that is worth considering. Either way you will be gambling with the possibly of regret.

None of these feelings are wrong. Because feeling cannot be controlled. They can’t be manipulated or coerced. Finding the happy medium between the brain and heart has been what has worked for me. (Usually with a little more heart)

All I know if life is short and it can be taken from us at any times. So at what point do you step up to the plate and put yourself first.